Frequently Asked Questions: Love, the More Love Letters Team
We get some really good questions on a daily basis from the More Love Letters Community on just about everything, from scripting the perfect love letter to stationery choices. We figured, who better fit to answer all these awesome questions than the experts themselves? Our team!
1) How do you recommend starting a love letter?
A good method to fall back on is explaining who you are and your purpose. Once you write down your purpose, the creative juices will be ‘a floatin’ and you’ll be on your way! For a more creative start, leave some space up top and go ahead and write the letter and save the first sentence and greeting for the end!
In all honesty, I always start my letters with the persons name in big, vibrant, colorful, fun letters. While writing the name I think about the situation and all of a sudden, the words flow off the pen.
2) I don’t know where to even begin… any pointers?
My favorite technique is to get a blank page of stationary, or any paper that you chose, and start writing words that pop out to you in your mind. Put them in different fonts and sizes, scattered throughout the page. Then grab a different colored pen or pencil and bring them together with love and uplifting sentences. Its a fun way to bring ideas out!
When I started writing love letters, the best advice I was given was to write the words you would want to find. What are the things you’d like to hear if you were in a certain situation? Those tend to touch someone else’s heart the best.
Write from your heart. Write like you’re are talking to a friend
3) What is your favorite kind of situation to address?
I really enjoy addressing student problems, personality/self-esteem issues, and relationships. Being a Resident Advisor at my university really helped me with learning how to address very personal issues with strangers (at any time of the day or night!) I have also been through the ringer when it comes to medical problems, so I feel just as comfortable dealing with those.
I think writing to people with depression is my favorite…I have dealt with depression and I know you can look at it in one of two ways: it ruins your life or it gives you new life. I learned so much from it and sometimes someone just needs you to point out the silver lining.
When an individual is losing hope, motivation and ambition.
People who feel like they have nowhere else to turn, and really just need a simple pick-me-up to put their head on right again.
I’ve been through a lot in the past year. I completed a very tough first year of graduate school, went through a horrible horrible breakup, traveled abroad, fell in love. It was a whirlwind. I like to tackle situations with those who aren’t sure which way is up or need to know that things will be okay. Because as hard as life can be, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel, even if you can’t always see it.
Call me the “new beginnings” master or the “the best is yet to come” queen. I love addressing the situations that involve people starting over in life or embarking on new adventures.
4) If it is a really sad situation, how do I make sure I don’t dwell on the negative?
When a sad situation arises, I try to consider what I would do to cheer myself up if I were in that situation and suggest those things in a letter. Or, if you can’t directly relate, try to incorporate a quote that inspires you or the situation; that can help fuel your letter writing.
I know it’s hard not to dwell on the negative but you have you have to remember that you are writing to help someone, to lift someone up; let the good inspire you.
5) Do you recommend a certain kind of stationery?
I tend to buy scrapbook bundles from craft stores. I like to sit down with my bundles and pick out different paper designs that remind me of that person’s story or personality. Variety is wonderfully fun! Luckily, we have a Stationary Scout with MoreLoveLetters, and she does awesome posts on the blog with fun stationery ideas.
6) How do I end my love letter?
Wish them the best! Tell them they’re incredible. Tell them it is okay to have days where all they really accomplished was breathing! Or even days where they took on the whole world and felt utterly exhausted by the end! That they are doing everything right. Let them know you are thinking and wondering about them… it’s kind of cool and humbling to be thought of especially by a stranger. I like to draw a heart and write my first name.
I like to include favorite quotes, poems, or a good spurt of encouragement at the end that lets the reader know that I will keep them in my thoughts as they go forward in their journey. I sign each letter “With love and love letters, J.”
7) Is there a specific length?
A letter can be as long or as short as you want! My advice: write until you feel like you’re finished. Don’t force more words just to reach the end of your page– if it feels complete, it most likely is.