1,095 Love Letters to Strangers Project
Today’s post is featuring Kristen Oshiro and her 1,095 Love Letters to Strangers Project.
I believe the best romantic relationships are the ones built on the foundation of friendship & your romantic feelings for the other person sneak up on you, taking you by surprise.
When I met my first love, over a year ago, I wasn’t looking for a relationship & dating was the last thing on my mind. We started off as friends & the more time we spent time together, the more I started to develop feelings for him. After confessing how I felt & hearing the same feelings were reciprocated, we became exclusive & dated.
This was my first serious adult relationship & I never felt so deeply connected to anyone in my life. Even though, we shared similar values & wanted similar things out of life, the timing wasn’t right; we both needed to focus on ourselves & plan our futures without worrying about how it would affect someone else.
This was someone I discussed at great length, the future we wanted to build & how we planned to spend our time together. That’s why I when our “break” turned into a break-up, I fell into depression; I’ve had my heartbroken before, but nothing compared to this earth shattering feeling.
I’ve struggled mentally & emotionally to try & move forward with my life; despite my best efforts, I couldn’t help feeling sorry for myself. I enjoyed the pity party I threw myself, because I felt it was the best company during this difficult time.
One day, I was fortunate to stumble upon a TED video of Hannah Brencher, the founder of “The World Needs More Love Letters.” I felt an immediate connection with Hannah’s need to do something to transform her depression into positive action.
My involvement with “The World Needs More Love Letters” started after writing 6 love letters to strangers, completing my “26 Acts of Kindness” to honor the Sandy Hook victims. I felt so much better about myself; my heart felt light & I no longer felt overwhelmed from internal pressure to get over my ex.
I wanted to continue this joyous feeling & decided I would write 25 love letters to strangers & send them to “More Love Letters” P.O Box to commemorate my upcoming 25th birthday.
Then a crazy idea hit me like a thunderbolt & I couldn’t shake it: I wanted to celebrate my Sweet Lychee Productions’ 3 year blog anniversary by writing 1,095 love letters to strangers. I hoped by the end of writing 1,095 love letters, my heart would feel again.
I rushed to Target & bought stationary for 1,095 strangers. When I got home I wrote the following on each & every envelope, “The World Needs MORE Love Letters! This Is Yours!”
I wasn’t sure about the right words to write a stranger to help them overcome heartache or encourage them to keep working hard, even when life emotionally & mentally kicks your ass; so I wrote the words I wished someone would tell me, the words I needed to tell myself.
Pouring my heart unto paper made me realize, these love letters are first for me & second for the recipient.
This project has helped with the healing process of my broken heart; I’m not going to lie, there are moments where I remember him & it feels like my heart is breaking all over.
Even though, I still want us to be together, I’ve learned important lessons, I probably wouldn’t treasure as much: 1) It’s essential to fall in love with yourself first, before getting romantically involved with someone & 2) Even when your world is falling apart, it’s important to find a purpose that’s bigger than your heartbreak.
I’m not quite sure, if you ever really get over your first love, but I firmly believe that you can transform pain into something beautiful.